Online dating wont work
Much of what I saw online were single men and women with a laundry list of qualifications for their ideal partner—a trap I all too easily fell in to. Online dating means navigating a slew of qualifications to specify for others and have others specify against or for you.Moreover, for people looking to find a soul mate, time is working against them on three different fronts: 1) As we get older, our vision of an ideal mate gets more narrowly defined; 2) As people continue to pair off, the field of eligibles dwindles; and 3) Every day you are fatter, uglier, and balder. Dating sites act as a filter to weed out the unwanted guys/gals, and for this reason, online dating has become too convenient to ignore. Because out at a bar, you might see 50 people of of the gender you’re into.Half of those will be taken, half of the remaining will be fugly, and half of the remaining probably just won’t be very cool.You're not shopping for the perfect car, you're seeking someone who has the courage and grace to drive on bumpy roads with you.Yes, there are some points on which men and women should never compromise when it comes to relationships.Turn on the TV and it’s not about kittens being saved from trees, but drive-by shootings.That doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of kittens saved from trees.
Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy. So many websites promise a shot at love and boast sky-high success rates. But in order to put boundaries on my search, my parameters were actually too narrow and closed off to the possibility of finding love in unexpected places.The turning point for me came when a friend and once-stalwart opponent of online dating created a Tinder profile for himself. That's a difficult thing to capture in an online dating for the sake of your loved one.Somehow, in the past few years, online dating has become acceptable to the masses.What was once only for the ugly, the old, the fat, and the socially awkward now has its grips on the young, good-looking, and talented portion of the population.