Christian and dating advice

As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!

” Whether over coffee in my kitchen or on the hallowed ground of women’s small groups, I hear these murmurs constantly.

I know this is wrong and that I should only get advice from people who tithe regularly and vote the right way but I have taken all the advice below and find that I am still single.

If you want to write a guest post, send it here.) Despite my passion for christian dating values and practices I must admit that sometimes I’ve considered turning to the “world” aka COSMOPOLITAN for dating advice.

Words – and changing their meanings, also appears to be our enemy’s greatest means to decieve people – to take a word (or thing) and change or literally hijak it’s history, meaning or appearance.

We have hundreds of examples; one might be that the rainbow used to be a symbol of God’s wrath on a decadent society, and another of course would be The Devil himself – once feared by believers and even non-believers alike – but nowdays is consigned along with the Bible and Jesus resurrection to ‘myth’ status and cartoonised as a little man in red pants and a pitch fork.

This assumes that the Bible’s warning about doing this is really nothing to take that seriously.

We receive hours and hours of training on how to have successful careers but almost none on how to have successful relationships.

Don't spend your time in wild parties and getting drunk or in adultery and lust, or fighting, or jealousy." Dating should not include a sexual relationship. "But sexual sin is never right: our bodies were not made for that, but for the Lord…That is why I say to run from sex sin. When you sin this sin it is against your own body." Keep yourself pure. "And everyone who really believes this will try to stay pure because Christ is pure." To keep from hurting ourselves, sexual desires and activities must be placed under Christ's control. "For God wants you to be holy and pure and to keep clear of all sexual sin so that each of you will marry in holiness and honor—not in lustful passion as the heathen do, in their ignorance of God and his ways." If you have already gone too far physically, what should you do? Don't toss me aside, banished forever from Your presence. Restore to me again the joy of Your salvation, and make me willing to obey You." Third, Believe that God has indeed forgiven you and quit feeling guilty. "What happiness for those whose guilt has been forgiven! What relief for those who have confessed their sins and God has cleared their record. Also, the fact that I have been saving my first kiss for my future husband is no longer cute now that I’m 30. I may or may not have googled “How to Kiss” a few months ago. Don’t do anything with the opposite sex that you wouldn’t want your future spouse to do with someone else. Let me cancel all my coffee dates lest it be considered an emotional affair. I will also cancel my eharmony membership despite their no refund policy. I should have used that money for the building fund at church instead of my own love life. " Amos 3:3, NKJV says, "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" Don't date someone who claims to be a Christian but doesn't live it. "What I meant was that you are not to keep company with anyone who claims to be a brother Christian but indulges in sexual sins, or is greedy, or is a swindler, or worships idols, or is a drunkard, or abusive.

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